Fast Ways to Set Boundaries When You Need Them (And Not When the Other Person Feels)
Boundaries are easier to cross if they’re clear, right? Well, maybe not exactly… Boundaries can get very difficult on you sometimes. Without a firm grasp on where you stand in relation to other people and things, it’s easy to feel like there’s no room for error. But that’s where this guide comes in! If you find it hard to acknowledge your individual boundaries (aka. your want-not self), then you might want to read on… Boundaries are a complex and ever-changing concept. So much so that researchers now believe that understanding what those boundaries are can help us change behaviors and relationships just by thinking about them! Here’s how to ditch the old “you were fine until you hit a wall” zone and regain your sense of personal authority:
Boundaries are important. They’re what makes us human. Boundaries are how we determine who we are and how we should behave in everyday life.But even the most perfect self-improvement plan won’t be able to achieve complete transformation overnight — if at all.To that end, here is a guide to reclaiming yourself. It will help you regain your sense of personal fulfillment, growth, and fulfillment of life as you know it.
Pain: Do you feel like you’re constantly giving to others? It can be exhausting, right? Perhaps it might even be making you sick.
Agitate: In healthy relationships, people ask for what they need to be able to thrive. For example, when we ask our partner for help in a nonthreatening way, we are more likely to get it.
Solution: Learn tools and exercises from professionally licensed therapist Nedra Glover Tawwab that will create healthy boundaries in your life and help you truly find peace. Nedra shows us how to build healthy boundaries that free us from constant guilt and resentment. How do you say “no” in a way that makes you feel empowered and strong? These techniques can help you — and your loved ones — learn to better set boundaries and walk away from situations that don’t contribute to your own well-being.You’ll learn how to take care of yourself while taking care of others as well.
We all know we should have healthy boundaries, but what does that actually look like?
In a relatable and inclusive tone, licensed counselor Nedra Glover Tawwab sheds light on the topic in her book Set Boundaries, Find Peace.
Rooted in the latest research and best practices used in CBT, these techniques help us identify and express our needs clearly and without apology — and unravel a root problem behind codependency, power struggles, anxiety, depression, burnout, and more.
I highly recommend this book for anyone who wants to gain a better understanding of boundaries, whether you invite me over for coffee or not!
Live a life that’s a joy, not a guilt trip. Stop excusing and giving in.
Learn the lessons behind healthy boundaries…